The Past Doesn’t Own Us
We often take our daily lives for granted
when things seem to be as they should.
Our routines take over. Our priorities shift.
Worries, big and small, sometimes cause rifts,
binding us together in the worst way,
insidiously eroding the beauty in our lives.
Life shifts. Be it death, divorce, or betrayal,
it makes no difference. The past is gone.
The only answer: wake up to what's important.
Listen to those around us when they speak.
Always give them the benefit of the doubt.
We didn't orchestrate our pasts on purpose,
but we can change our present and future.
It is so easy to let the past rule our thinking, our attitudes; in other words, the past can determine our present. Being aware of our past is not the same as allowing it to color every decisions we make, to fuel old hurts. Knowing the content of our past and recognizing the paths we chose and why is important because it aids us in avoiding those which did not serve us. If we don’t, we cannot live in the present or plan our best lives for the future.
Losing someone who’s been there for such a huge part of your lifetime is a shock. The grief is coupled with the hardship of learning a new way of life, and it brings up so many questions about the nature of your life going forward.
Our dreams have this tendency to follow us through our lives if we don’t embrace them. However, if we resist them too long, we may find ourselves bringing along memories of all those times things didn’t go as planned. It makes it harder to unfurl our wings and fly. These thoughts don’t necessarily affect the quality of our creativity, but they can make us more cautious than we might have been in our past.
Dark moments visit us all even those who would prefer not to admit it. Dark moments are not a sign of weakness. They are just an effect of stress or doubts about something in our lives or about a desire we have. We must recognize them as temporary and shift our focus rather than let them sabotage us.
We are in critical times as a nation. Democracy is on the line, and the loss of it will have repercussions around the world. We have to wake up and with eyes wide open see how the masses are being manipulated.
I just found this free verse I wrote in June, 2020. Interesting that I experienced a moment recently that dealt with my feelings about this very issue. Even three years after the fact, old concerns or regrets will suddenly surface. I am sure the occurrences will be rarer as time goes on. At least this is what I'm told. John and I are soulmates. We served each other's needs, psychologically and emotionally, in this lifetime. We were able to open ourselves to each other in ways we'd never been able to do with others. I am still learning from my time with him. Although he, too, was learning, I believe he was further along on the journey this lifetime than I.
People on edge describes people everywhere these days. It is a vicious cycle that we must start addressing if we don't want to limit ourselves to the compelling choices by people on edge.
Hard times are what most of us fight to avoid. Instead of fighting against them, we need to look at them differently, In other words, search for the gift they offer.
Our daily lives can often feel overwhelming. When they do, it’s easy to make excuses and take the easy way out. Unfortunately, the things we ignored, hoping they would take care of themselves, usually come back to haunt us.
Living in the past is not a good thing. This doesn’t mean that we pretend the past didn’t happen. It means that we don’t stop moving forward. We are living in a time where many people are trying to return to the past. This is not good as a nation and certainly not as individuals.