We often beat up on ourselves by remaining in a relationship, platonic or otherwise, where we are unable to be our authentic selves. For unhealthy reasons, we allow another to use us as an emotional punching bag at the very least. Perhaps we convince ourselves we’re not trying hard enough. When the day comes that our tolerance reaches its limit, we realize that the lesson we’ve been avoiding is as clear as a bell ringing. We must recognize our own value, know that it is not our job to engage in someone else’s issues at our expense. It is even possible that our departure could be a wake-up call for them as well. Whether it does or not, that is their lesson to learn, not ours.
| Can You Relate? Have you ever been involved with someone who was so needy that your ideas became theirs, and everything grew so out of proportion in their minds that it could be considered troublingly bizarre? Plus, no matter what passed between you verbally, it was constantly being reimagined by them? If you have, you know how maddening it can be. Dealing with a person like this is like trying to hit a moving target. Everything is a "poor me" or an angry outburst for no reason. Reality becomes a foreign concept for them. Sometimes, as much as it may pain you, you just have to walk away and not look back. ©Dannye Williamsen |
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